Lately I have been feeling a little helpless and slightly confused on what to do. HB has seemed stressed out and with a good right to, things haven't been going smoothly. I want to help and make everything right and make her happy. I know that my presence does help, I just wish there was more I can do. Gabe has been unruly with her. I'm not a child phsycologist and have no idea why. Sometimes I want to try to offer advise but am afraid of crossing a boundry because I know damn well that it's definately not my place but I want to try to offer suggestions that may help. I know that I have no room to talk though, when I lived with my son I had a really really bad temper with him. I know that kids drive you insane. Even when I was home last week he almost drove me over the edge. I have learned to control it alot better though now that he is older and I see him less, he listens a little better and knows when I am about to snap and I send him to his room or put him in there if he doesn't listen and this gives both of us time to cool down and talk. But when he was younger, like Gabe is, they don't stay in their room or give you time to cool down, they are always pushing. I have come to laughing at them when they cry and throw their fits, I really think it's funny, though greatly annoying (especially in public). I wonder when they come to think that, that is an acceptable way to try to get the things they want. But anyways when I wonder what advise I could give that wouldn't be crossing a line I realize that I don't know how I would would have been able to control my temper back then. I don't know, I just over analyze things alot I guess. In this case it is probably a good thing though. All I know is I love her and want her to be happy.